Yesterday was one of the hardest days I have had in a very long time. My heart was completely shattered by Ayla's father, Seth.
For a few weeks now, he had made the choice to be in Ayla's life and pay child support and work together with me to raise Ayla so that she had both of her parents in her life. Everything seemed to be going well and we were kind and I even let him meet Ayla. It was only for an hour at a McDonald's, just so he could see her and he and I could have our first face to face interaction since I was 3-4 months pregnant. It was nerve wracking to see him and I had to rein in a lot of harbored anger I had towards him for abandoning us. I had decided that forgiveness was the best way to approach the situation, for Ayla's sake. This man is a runner, so I knew if I confronted him on his inappropriate behavior he would just walk away again.
This entire time I have been kind and understanding, and I had made the choice to put the past behind us and try to even be his friend. Things were going really well! I had decided to ask for very little in child support, even though I knew Ayla and I both deserved more. I offered him visitation once a week and even was willing to drive Ayla out to see him. For me, it wasn't about the money. It was about Ayla and giving her a chance to know her father.
Yesterday, Seth calls me while I am at work and says the words, "I don't want any part of this." I was completely caught off guard and said, "I'm sorry, what?" and he repeated those words. He didn't want any part of being in Ayla's life or having a relationship with her. I instantly hung up on him and was overcome with just absolute heart break for my baby. Once again, he abandoned her, and left me alone to raise Ayla by myself.
I have been a single mother for over a year now, and it is hard. Sometimes, it's easy, and you're glad you don't have to share the baby, and sometimes you are so broken and alone when you need a partner. I am not afraid to parent by myself. I will never give Ayla less than 100% of my effort. She is the most important person in the world to me and I will protect her to my dying breath, even from someone who should love her.
I texted him shortly after stating that I wanted $200 a month in child support (which is extremely low) because he still needs to help support her even if he never see's Ayla again. He then threatened me with court and said if I even tried to get child support, he would take 50/50 custody of Ayla so he didn't have to pay me.
Something about Seth that many people may not know is that he and his fiance both are money hungry. They have money, but live like they're broke to avoid having to pay what they should. He also has 3 kids with three different women on top of taking on his fiances 2 other kids. I have texts from both him and his fiance stating that they can't handle 50/50 custody and that they don't want it. I am not afraid of him taking Ayla from me. For more reasons than I am going to go into, there is almost 0% chance he would even get visitation, let alone any kind of custody.
His fiance and him called me later last night and she wanted him and I to talk things through and he just drove home that he did not want Ayla and he wanted everything decided by a judge because he doesn't want to work with me to come to an agreement.
It was so painful hearing him reject Ayla and repeating that he is sure he wants no part in her life.
So now we are going to court I suppose... Prayer would be much appreciated...
For a few weeks now, he had made the choice to be in Ayla's life and pay child support and work together with me to raise Ayla so that she had both of her parents in her life. Everything seemed to be going well and we were kind and I even let him meet Ayla. It was only for an hour at a McDonald's, just so he could see her and he and I could have our first face to face interaction since I was 3-4 months pregnant. It was nerve wracking to see him and I had to rein in a lot of harbored anger I had towards him for abandoning us. I had decided that forgiveness was the best way to approach the situation, for Ayla's sake. This man is a runner, so I knew if I confronted him on his inappropriate behavior he would just walk away again.
This entire time I have been kind and understanding, and I had made the choice to put the past behind us and try to even be his friend. Things were going really well! I had decided to ask for very little in child support, even though I knew Ayla and I both deserved more. I offered him visitation once a week and even was willing to drive Ayla out to see him. For me, it wasn't about the money. It was about Ayla and giving her a chance to know her father.
Yesterday, Seth calls me while I am at work and says the words, "I don't want any part of this." I was completely caught off guard and said, "I'm sorry, what?" and he repeated those words. He didn't want any part of being in Ayla's life or having a relationship with her. I instantly hung up on him and was overcome with just absolute heart break for my baby. Once again, he abandoned her, and left me alone to raise Ayla by myself.
I have been a single mother for over a year now, and it is hard. Sometimes, it's easy, and you're glad you don't have to share the baby, and sometimes you are so broken and alone when you need a partner. I am not afraid to parent by myself. I will never give Ayla less than 100% of my effort. She is the most important person in the world to me and I will protect her to my dying breath, even from someone who should love her.
I texted him shortly after stating that I wanted $200 a month in child support (which is extremely low) because he still needs to help support her even if he never see's Ayla again. He then threatened me with court and said if I even tried to get child support, he would take 50/50 custody of Ayla so he didn't have to pay me.
Something about Seth that many people may not know is that he and his fiance both are money hungry. They have money, but live like they're broke to avoid having to pay what they should. He also has 3 kids with three different women on top of taking on his fiances 2 other kids. I have texts from both him and his fiance stating that they can't handle 50/50 custody and that they don't want it. I am not afraid of him taking Ayla from me. For more reasons than I am going to go into, there is almost 0% chance he would even get visitation, let alone any kind of custody.
His fiance and him called me later last night and she wanted him and I to talk things through and he just drove home that he did not want Ayla and he wanted everything decided by a judge because he doesn't want to work with me to come to an agreement.
It was so painful hearing him reject Ayla and repeating that he is sure he wants no part in her life.
So now we are going to court I suppose... Prayer would be much appreciated...
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